Living with chronic pain can be incredibly challenging, and finding comfort can feel elusive, even impossible. Over the years, I've discovered that a combination of pleasant childhood memories, multiple creative pursuits, and a few treasured supportive relationships with family and friends provides the most solace. However, my definition of comfort is significantly different from someone without chronic pain. What I consider a good day might be a nightmare for someone else.
Certain activities, foods, books, and TV shows from my childhood and young adulthood bring me comfort. This familiarity provides a sense of calm and helps me navigate the challenges of chronic pain.
I also find solace in adapting to do a lesser version of some of the things I enjoyed before chronic pain became my life. Mild impact outdoor activities like walking at Bellhouse Park with my best friend, enjoying ice cream with family at the marina, and exercising and doing arts and crafts with my mother-in-law, are particularly enjoyable. When Paul is home, we play crib, work on our laptops, projects around the house, and recently started playing retro video games on a new console I got for something for us to do together that we both enjoy. We like to hide out in Paul's parents' camping trailer for a change of scenery to have a break out of the house. We have great conversations and we have our shared dreams and goals, as well as our own.


Another source of comfort is after years of struggling to read due to difficulty retaining information, I discovered that reading graphic novels was easier. Seeing the story visually helped me retain more of what I was reading, and I was able to follow along. Reading graphic novels based on my favorite childhood books has become a comforting pasttime. It brings back fond memories of reading for hours in my bedroom Sunday mornings as a child.
Creative projects and hobbies provide a sense of calm and distraction from the unrelenting and overwhelming pain. These activities keep me engaged and focused, preventing me from hyperfocusing on my pain. The support of loved ones is also invaluable. Feeling loved and valued for who I am, not just what I can do, is reassuring, especially when dealing with the low self-esteem that often accompanies chronic pain.


Self-soothing when my anxiety and panic start is essential for my mental health and well-being, especially when living with the burdens of chronic pain. My body is pretty much always in fight or flight mode. Some of my self-soothing strategies involve tapping my fingers while counting, playing with my rings, taking medication at the same time and in the same order each day to manage my pain and mental health issues, and using habit-tracking and CBT apps to process the difficult emotions and to keep my recovery going in a positive direction. I also plan soothing and calming ways to do chores and tasks that increase my pain, I have regular times I visit with family and friends, and comfort activities of self care like making art and writing in my journals. I try to do these activities and tasks at similar times every day to create structured routines. I do better when my days have structure to them. When I’m going about my days in a routine manner, the sameness of knowing what’s next is of great personal comfort. So much is unknown and out of my control with respect to my pain and other physical and mental health issues that cause distress, that my brain craves the structure and knowing what’s next that my routines provide.


This summer I’ve been working on creating a calm and organized haven in my creative workspace. Having a space where I can find peace and focus and have all my art and journaling supplies close at hand is crucial during challenging times. When we feel uplifted and motivated, comfort can be a buoy keeping us afloat. When we're feeling disconnected, it can be a sheltering point to retreat to.
When designing our living spaces, we often focus on aesthetics and how we want things to “look”. However, by considering how we want to feel in our spaces, we can create environments that promote comfort and well-being. I aim for a calm and inspiring atmosphere where I feel like I'm able to accomplish my personal and creative goals. By incorporating elements that soothe you into your living environment, you can create a space that supports your recovery and healing. My living room, which currently doubles as my temporary studio, is my safe space. It’s where my magic happens. However, I'm excited to move my craft and art supplies into the fifth wheel we were gifted that we are renovating for a dedicated studio and sewing space for myself, Paul’s mom, and Kiersten..


Over time, we can identify what brings us comfort and discomfort in our daily routines. By making intentional changes to our environments, such as adding artwork, painting, getting a piece of furniture, a plant, or doing something creative with your space, we can foster hope and inspire ourselves for personal growth. It's okay to let go of things that no longer bring comfort and replace them with something new. Our homes can be ever-evolving spaces that support our changing needs.
For me, creativity is a primary source of comfort. Immersing myself in the creative process provides a sense of inner calm and relaxation. I get into a meditative state, which decreases my heart rate, relaxes my body, and brings a sense of inner calm. Listening to meditations while engaging in creative activities is particularly comforting. I use apps like Apple Fitness Plus and Balance for guided meditations.
My workspace is also a comforting space. I've recently rearranged it to better suit my needs, including making space for my small Buddhist statues and knick-knacks and computer equipment for creating video content. Having a designated area for work helps me feel organized and focused.
Physical comfort is also important. I enjoy relaxing in my recliner, reading, watching TV, and using my back massager. Going into our hot tub regularly and cuddling with my dogs also provide comfort.
Certain foods, like my mom's turkey and mashed potatoes or Paul's chicken soup dumplings, Kiersten's mac and cheese, and Paul's mom's cheeseburger casserole, are my comfort foods. Things like cereal, breakfast for dinner and right from the oven banana bread, also bring me comfort. Having the comfort of a favourite home cooked meal is something I make a point to mindfully eat and enjoy, while being surrounded by my loved ones.

Ultimately, the most important source of my comfort is the support of loved ones. My family and friends each play a vital role in my well-being, and I'm grateful for their support. I honestly don’t know if I would be doing very well or even alive still if I didn’t have that strong sense of support I feel from my loved ones.
By cultivating comfort in our lives, we can navigate the challenges of chronic pain with greater resilience and hope. Through intentional self-care, supportive relationships, and a nurturing home environment, we can find solace, inspiration, and a renewed sense of purpose. Remember, comfort is a journey, not a destination. As our lives evolve, so too will our sources of comfort. By remaining open to new experiences and embracing self-care, we can continue to find comfort and joy, even in the face of adversity.
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